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OK, I know some people will not like this and they will call it gossip but my wife and I are worried about it so it needs to aired out. We have one daughter that is still a JW. i will call her H. She is married to a non JW. She has 4 children. This daughter does not seem to recognise any dangers at all about her children. She invites anyone to her house without really knowing who they are or anything about their past. 3 of the children are girls and they attend ballet and tap dance lessons. They are only young, the oldest being around 8 years old. Today they were in a performance /show in Exeter, a biggish show that their teacher was putting on for all parents, grandparents, etc. I wasn't allowed to go of course as I'm a 'naughty boy' that left the Org. My wife went to the show and was surprised to find two 'brothers' there. One of the 'brothers' is a young single Elder and the other 'brother' is an old man that has recently been reinstated and moved into Honiton congregation. This older man frequently visits H and her daughters at their home and the girls call him Uncle Phil. He seems very 'friendly' toward the girls. H does not know where this 'brother' is from but he is now part of the Honiton Congregation which H and her children attend, here in Devon. It seems strange to me that this man has just arrived at Honiton Congregation and just been reinstated. My wife says he has a London accent. If I were still a JW I would ask him bluntly why he was disfellowshipped and where he is from, but of course I cannot do that now. I have his full name, so is there any way i can run a check on him ? Should i contact an Elder at Honiton Congregation and tell them of the concern my wife and I have ? If this 'brother' had been involved in a child abuse accusation would they have told H about it so that she could be on her guard ? Some on here may think I'm just trying to cause trouble, but my wife came home this evening and is looking very worried. It seems that H had invited both 'brothers' to the meal afterward and my wife felt unhappy about the whole situation. TTH will probably bring out the rule book again and say 'it never happens', but child abuse does happen and needs to be looked for all the time. Our daughter H seems to have no idea about the situations that have taken place, and in honesty she doesn't want to know. So how can my wife warn her ?

OK, I've sort of shot myself in the foot by saying I'm now going to take this forum as a joke and have a laugh. In most ways i will continue to do so BUT. This evening I was given some information that 1.maybe I shouldn't have been given. 2. Maybe i wish i hadn't been given. Some of you may say I'm telling lies. Some of you may say I'm just after attention. Some may say I'm just trying to put down the JW Org. However i have to think on something i say a lot. DUTY OF CARE. Care of everyone, in or out of that JW Org. I have been given this information :- Somewhere between 18 months to 2 years ago, a young man that is a member of Honiton Congregation (my ex congregation) committed a sexual offence against a young girl that would have been around 7 or 8 years old at that time.. The young man was visiting the home of this child and he went up to the girl's bedroom and asked the girl to have sex with him. I do not think that sexual intercourse took place but from the information that I've been given, he laid her on the bed and got on top of her and 'humped' her as if he were having sexual intercourse with her. The incident was reported to the Elders and the police were not informed. I have no idea what action the Elders took but the congregation were not informed. The young man ( who's name I have ) would have been in his very early twenties at the time, but his mental age is lower. He is a bit slow in learning things and possibly has mental disorders. That is not meant as an insult, but i do know this young man personally and he does act a bit strange sometimes and frightens people. The young man's father was a single dad of three children ( i knew this man quite well ), but he invited a foreign lady (a sister in the JW Org) over to the UK, and they married. The marriage did not go well as the woman wanted to 'be the boss'. They split up and she went back to her country of origin. But then she came back to have a 'second try' at the marriage. I do not know the marriage situation at this time. However the whole issue would have been totally upsetting for the three children, especially for this young man that found it difficult to cope with some situations. The person that gave me this information, in my opinion, is completely trustworthy, and once again in my opinion, would not have any reason for making up a 'story'. As I was given the young man's name, and i know the young man and his father, it all seems quite genuine to me. Now i come back to the duty of care. For, in my opinion, it is the duty of anyone that has any information concerning child abuse to report it to the police. This could be just a one off incident, but it could be the start of a young man becoming a pedophile. I honestly don't know where my duty is here. The young girl that was the victim of this assault may need help getting over the situation. The information was also that the father of the victim does not want 'any trouble'. Hence he did not want the police involved. That helped the Elders to keep it secret, well almost. Now this young man may commit sexual assault again, within the JW congregation or outside of it. And that young lady will be in fear of him and yet still have to attend that Kingdom hall where she will see him every week. So should i report what i have been told to the police or not ? Of course I would have to tell the police it is only third hand information. BUT, if the police could get hold of the 'records' / paperwork from the Kingdom hall regarding the incident, then it would be proved as true. I do not expect that the Elders would willingly hand over paperwork, so I've no idea how it would work out in the end. But it's my actions that I'm concerned about here , my responsabilites. What should i do ?

Jehovah's Witnesses against Child Abuse. Official Announcement.