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What's your idea of the perfect date?

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Spend a  day at a beach :) 

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1 hour ago, Sonita said:

Spend a  day at a beach :) 

With  friends  or  alone ?  With  friends  or  a  partner,  thats  nice  and  funny... :)

I  did  it  often  on  an  Island,  wow !  With  beachball,  table - tennis  or  more...  A  great  idea,  yes

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@Sonita  Yes, maybe  you're  right  with  enjoying....  xD  but  every  human  is  a  little  different.  -  And,  alone  at  a  beach,  I  think  can  be  little  dangerous  in  our  bad  time,  sorry :(  But  in  the  NW,  we  all  make  fun  at  any  beach...  hahaha  :D

@Nicole  Yes  Nicole,  I've  lots  of  wonderful  memories  from  5 Maldives holidays :)  I  hope,  these  beautiful  paradise  islands  never  going  under  water ;-(  Jehovah  will  rescue  them,  I  think  so !    ( Thanks  for  your  nice  comment...)

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